When we were first married, my husband and I had trouble communicating love to each other.
Every morning, he would brew me a cup of coffee, pack my lunch, iron my clothes, and turn on the seat warmers in my car. I showered him with gratitude and told everyone what an amazing man he was.
After a while, I realized that my compliments were empty words to him because they were not followed by acts of service. See, my husband feels loved when I cook a nice meal, clean the house, and do small favors for him.
My husband was shocked to find out he wasn't speaking my language either the night I cried, "I feel so unappreciated!" To me, quality time and words of affirmation equal love.
It's easy to figure out your spouse's love language - just watch which language they speak to you. Chances are they are speaking their own language.
What about children?
Children are developing as individuals. Depending on your child's age, it is possible that there is a distinct love language already displayed. Younger children tend to need ALL types of love.
Here are a few ideas of ways you can show love to your children and foster a healthy self-esteem in them:
- Make it a habit to spend uninterrupted quality time with your child. No phones. No computer. No TV. Just you.
- Go on a date with your child. Ice cream and the dollar store are a winner at my house!
- While looking into their eyes, tell your children that you love them every day.
- Buy your kids something fun for no reason at all. It can be small and simple, like a ball or a book. A hand-made tutu would make a fabulous gift too!
- Set a beautiful table for a small family dinner to communicate to your kids that they are worth the effort just as much as your other dinner guests.
- Hug your children daily. For 'non-huggers', a high-five or a special secret handshake will work (but I wouldn't give up on the hugging)
Happy Valentine's Day, Everyone!!
Enjoy all the love around you.