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I took the day off work today to spend time with my two little loves after a week of intense preparation for my Christmas shoot.
We baked muffins together, had a dance party, went out to the park, snuggled up for a nap together, and met daddy after work for some shopping! After dinner, we turned the table into congas as we banged our way through a song where each member sang a line.
Uncontrollable laughter filled the air. Work was far from my thoughts.
If you've been keeping up with me, you've probably already learned that I do nothing better than reflect. So, of course, tonight I spent some time replaying the events of the day.
It took me back to my childhood and something I learned very well from my parents. They taught me to be "desprendida." The dictionary defines it as being unselfish, detached, and open-handed.
My parents did that well. There was nothing they couldn't live without; not their money, not their status, not their possessions.
As they day went on today, I realized that I often allow myself to get too attached to things that lack true worth. In light of eternity, what will determine how successful I am is the type of children I raise.
Today, I choose to hold on to only two things:
1. For my heart to be right with God
2. To be the loving wife and mother my family needs me to be
Won't you make the choice with me too?
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2. Encourage meaningful relationships:
3. Establish expectations:
4. Describe your code of conduct:
5. Foster a team-work attitude:
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Wednesday, July 21, 2010
When the Pastors showed resistance to marrying us if I was serious, I said that I would eventually have to have children if Eric wanted them, but in my heart, I had no intention of fulfilling that promise.
Mostly selfish and partly valid, I had a long list of reasons:
- I was a Kindergarten teacher and had been involved with children all my life. I believed dealing with children was my calling, not my life. I loved children; I just didn’t want to bring any of them home.
- Why would anyone in their right mind complicate their lives with children?
- They take all your money and your freedom.
- You have to hire a sitter every time you want to do something.
- They are a life-long responsibility.
- You have to do everything for them.
- How could I bring more children into this world when there are so many here already that are not being cared for?
- What if I bring children to this world and they walk away from faith and values only to lose their souls? I would never forgive myself.
When I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later, my world collapsed. I thought God was playing a sick joke on me. I was angry with God and livid with my husband. Horrible shameful thoughts tormented me every single day. At the same time, I knew I was stuck and I needed to figure out how to make the best out of it.
We refrained from telling people because I felt bad that others were excited for us. “Didn’t they know my life just got ruined?” I was a wreck! Our finances were a mess and I did not want to give up my career, which was going pretty good.
The next few months were the most life-changing of all. Eric and I worked hard to get our finances in order and to prepare as best we could. I bid farewell to my career and embraced my new ‘normal.’
On November 22, 2007, Joakim was born. The doctor sat me up, had me pull him out and placed him in my arms. What an incredible bond we had! The sweetest, most amazing baby ever. When I saw his face, I was filled with peace. I knew we were going to be ok.
Today, nothing makes me more excited than the thought of
I am certain of it when I see my Dad snuggled up with little Zia during worship Sunday mornings.
I am certain of it when I hear Joa scream “Daddy’s home!” every afternoon.
I am certain of it when I laugh until I cry during family tickle fights.
So, on his 2nd birthday I’d like to thank my Joakim for making me a Mommy. You truly have been my greatest teacher. You have taught me more about God in these last two years than I knew my entire life. I am so thankful that God interrupted my 5-year plan and surprised me with you.
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- Ask him what kind of role he wants to have as a Daddy. Listen to his answer! My husband WANTED to feed our newborns, which meant I had to pump milk. Did I prefer to just nurse? Of course! But I wanted to honor his wishes, so I pumped daily. He did the 11pm feeding, which allowed me a little extra z's too.
- Communicate and compromise about everything. New parents both have a heavy load. There is caring for the kids and caring for the home, but there are also other responsibilities men normally tend to internalize such as finances, safety, and the future. Invite him to share his heart with you and figure out how you can share those responsibilities.
- Expect him to help. I'm not sure why, but somewhere along the way we were taught that men sit on a recliner with the remote in one hand and a beer in the other while we do all the work. Not so. Even guys who start out that way end up feeling a lot more pride in themselves when they are asked to help. Don't expect parenting to be "mothering" until the child is old enough to throw a ball. Expect him to change diapers, swaddle, get up in the middle of the night, and feed the baby.
- HIS way may not be YOUR way. He's definitely not going to do things exactly like you - and that's ok. Let him do it his way.
- Withhold criticism. Nothing kills a desire to help more than constant criticism. Criticism also includes going behind him and re-doing what he has just done. Be an encourager!
- Get out of the way! Allow him space to develop as a Daddy. He will never change a diaper if you never let him try. Don't look over his shoulder inspecting everything he does. Have confidence in him. He may be able to teach you a thing or two.
- Don't be afraid to ask for help even if he's watching a sporting event. Tell him what your needs are and ask him for help. You'll be surprised at how easily he comes to the rescue. Things have changed for both of you. You may need him to stay home from that fishing trip or wait until the kids are down to go on a run. Whatever you need, ASK! He won't know what you need unless you tell him.
- Speak positively. Give him genuine compliments every chance you get. Focus on the positive and on what he is doing well.
- Appreciate him. The more you thank him, the more he will WANT to help.
- Respect and honor him as a man. A huge mistake women tend to make is to think of their husbands as 'one of the kids.' Your man is not one of the kids! He is your spouse and life partner. Your nurturer, provider, and the love of your life! Speak to him and OF him with honor and respect; especially in front of the children, no matter what their age.